I do not believe this. I really do not. A third mom posted on MDC that she lost her baby last week. Another one!! She was not an MDC regular, but found us after her loss. I am glad she found MDC. Those wonderful ladies have been my rock. Mama's that know this journey I am on. They lift me up & inspire me. Some are pregnant again & have found true happiness again. I am so glad. It really gives me something to look forward to.
There are four of us whom had their babies die within weeks of each other. It is amazing to see how close we are on this grief journey. This is what a bereavement counselor wrote about grief:

1. Shock and NumbnessCharacteristics most intense the first 2 weeks

Attention span-short

Concentration is difficultdecision making is impaired

stunned, disbelief

resistant to stimuli

functioning impeded

denial

time confusion

failure to accept reality

2. Searching and YerningCharacteristics dominant 2nd week-4th month

sensitive to stimuli

anger/guilt,

dreams restless/impatient

double meaning

testing what is real

irritability

weight gain/loss

sleeping difficulties

aching arms

obsession to get pregnant again

preoccupation with the deceased

resentment bitterness

time confusion

palpitations

sighing

lack of strength

headaches*

perceptual confirmation is key

3. Disorientation characteristics

dominant 5th-9th month

think "I am going crazy"

social withdrawl

disorganized

forgetful

awareness of reality

depressed

guilt

insomnia

anorexiaweight gain/loss

sense of failure

sadness

exhaustion

difficulty in concentration

feels ill "sick role"

lack of energy

4. Reorganization/ resolutioncharacteristics dominant 18th-24th month

sense of release

renewed energy

able to make decisions easier

eating and sleeping habits re-established

able to laugh and smile again

increased awareness in self-esteem (appearance, diet rest, exercise)

begin planning for future

I think that I range between numbers 2 & 3. Sometimes I have parts of 4, but those are few & fleeting.